A Spring Bible Study Session that includes Bullet Journaling Small Group Discussion Outline 1 Timothy 6:3-10 3 If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, 4 they are conceited and understand nothing. 5 They […]
I haven’t been present here on my blog for sometime. The main reason is something that I’ve mentioned before…The Lord has called me to be more intentional with relationships and discipleship, which limits my time online. If anyone out there is still following, I thought […]
I want to share the process of speaking truth in love in a personal way with you today.
This is something I talk about often, especially with women in my close circles. As a wife and mother, I have learned this lesson MANY times over the years. The receiver will have closed ears if they hear even the hint of anything other than LOVE. (Anger, frustration, condemnation, etc.) Motivation to speak “truth” often comes from these places of frustration, anger, etc. and changing this natural human response could only happen once I acknowledged my own need for correction, and…that without the power of the Holy Spirit, I would not be able to deliver truth IN LOVE. (The message would always be slighlty tainted by “my flesh.”)
Correction is important to our growth, but until it is motivated by love and tempered with that love the recipient will not “hear” a “hard” truth. NONE of us like to hear or “see” our own faults and stumblings.
“And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, or lose heart when He rebukes you. For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” -Hebrews 12:5,6
In order to speak truth and have it be heard, we must first develop trust within the relationship. It is only through time that we can develop a “track record” of loving responses that will enable the other person to see our true motivation is a matter of the heart.
I love the example Jason Weimer from CRU shares about this topic
What Makes Talking With You Taste Good?
Consider salt. Yes, salt.
In the ancient world salt did more than just make French fries tasty. Before refrigeration, salt preserved meat to keep it from spoiling. These dual purposes – flavoring and preserving – offer context to verses like Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Asking questions, listening, and seeking to understand is a great start to this. We can also encourage people with Scripture blended with snapshots of how we experience it personally.
We can give people a taste of Jesus.
My wife experienced this firsthand recently. We had just bought four chickens and put a coop in the back corner of our property. Our neighbor’s dog became obsessed with them, feverishly sniffing along the fence and refusing to do his other backyard business.
A few days later my neighbor saw my wife in our yard, stormed over, and confronted her.
“I’m not okay with the chickens,” he said.
My wife was taken aback, but she took a breath and whispered a prayer before responding.
“Can you tell me what’s bothering you?” she said. “Maybe we can work something out that would be good for both of us.”
His demeanor immediately changed, as he was expecting defensiveness. It was like my wife had disarmed a bomb, and through peaceful conversation they were able to agree to a solution.
This salt-seasoned interaction with my wife warmed him and our relationship has grown ever since.
So, back to the my personal story:)
Yesterday, I created a post and Doodle 101 regarding Wisdom. Below is the original image I created.
Later that day, a sweet online friend and Sister in Christ sent me a message that was salty, BUT tasted good:) In her message, she tempered truth with such love. She began by encouraging & supporting me, and in a gentle way, asked me about the modesty of the image of “wisdom” above.
She said…”Somehow wisdom with a hint of immodesty don’t seem to go together.”
In all honesty, I hadn’t given it a thought! Often, when I create a drawing tutorial, I consider what will be the most simple and direct way to the end goal. When I drew lady wisdom above, I wanted to draw a simple top, using minimal lines. I also wanted to convey a hint of grace and a posture of “knowing.” I instinctively drew what I would call a “ballet scoop neck” without even thinking about her slightly bare shoulders.
I have to agree with my friend, any form of immodesty and wisdom do not go together! Thank you Sister, for taking the time to not only encourage me, but to also speak truth in a loving way!
I especially liked something else she said that further “tempered” this truth she delivered…
“I totally mean it with gentleness and love, one sister speaking with her sister to maybe help her to see something that she may have missed. Kind of like I would say to a friend that may have some broccoli stuck in her teeth. :)”
What a beautiful example of speaking truth in love.
Here is my new drawing for Wisdom:)
AS ALWAYS, CLICK ON THE IMAGE ABOVE FOR THE PDF
IT’S ALL ABOUT LOVE,
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We have a few weeks remaining in our (my church) Women’s Winter Bible Study Session SEAMLESS. Recently, Angie (Smith, the author of the study) shared that she grew up in my home town. (I didnt’ know that!) She actually attended the same school I did…but, MUCH later! Hahahahaha.
I can’t begin to tell you how much the ladies at my church have LOVED this study! Some even sharing that it is the BEST study they have ever done:)
I think one of the reasons for this, is the common stumbling block we all share. The Bible is a BIG book! It is a LONG story with incredible detail and most of us have spent time reading separate books within scripture, without ever understanding the WHOLE story and how those books fit together to tell one story…. a LOVE story.
If you are considering studying SEAMLESS I assure you, you won’t be disappointed!
I have created some study sheets using the icons Angie provides in her book, to help us with a visual reminder of each section of the Bible. These icons have been so GREAT, and are right up “my alley” in the journaling process of creating a visual reminder of God’s truth.
Click on the image below for the COVER PAGE
Click on the link below for the content pages.
(If you print the content separately from the cover sheet, you can print them front and back)
Just thought I’d share:)
Hi sweet Sisters! Do you ever get to the end of a great book and wish it would last longer? This is how I feel about Beth Guckenberger’s latest book START WITH AMEN. In Chapter 12 (the last chapter 😩), Beth writes this: “I believe […]
Start with Amen : How I learned to Surrender by Keeping the End in Mind -by Beth Guckenberger (a peek into this new book!)
I’ve only read the first 3 chapters, but Beth had me at AMEN.
If you’ve never read one of Beth’s books, or heard her speak, or experienced her vulnerable, big heart for God, I encourage you to! God will speak to YOUR heart through hers ❤️
She happens to be a “hometown girl”… from my hometown:) After joining the Lord in a “start up ministry” BACK TO BACK, (<—Check it out!) and living in Mexico for many years, she and her family are back in Ohio.
My oldest daughter experienced such growth through this ministry, and it’s easy to see the great work God is doing there. Hope you will prayerfully consider what it might mean to the life of you and/or your family.
Beth Guckenberger is a gifted story teller, with a miraculous story to tell.
Quick to share her stumbles, open and vulnerable in her weaknesses, God tells His story, shares His Glory. through her obedience …and sometimes disobedience, pain, heartache and brokenness.
The doodle below came from Beth’s story about ice cream. I can totally relate. After spending any given day doing “hard stuff” (often in our own power) we feel the need for a reward. Why? Because when we are operating in our own will, using our own “steam” we run out of that steam, without experiencing the blessing the Lord longs to “award” us along the way. We miss out, and try to “bless ourselves” with ____________________ (fill in the blank…maybe it’s ice cream:)
Love your thoughts here Beth Guckenberger!
From “START WITH AMEN” -In Revelation 2, God used John to challenge the church at Ephesus by saying, “Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first” (v. 5). The word translated as “fallen” from Greek is used in other places in Scripture. It can denote a flower that has withered (James 1: 11; 1 Pet. 1: 24) or a ship out of control (Acts 27: 17, 26). When I neglect spending extended time with the Lord, I feel like a withered flower or an out-of-control ship. A withered flower doesn’t feel his peace, doesn’t show his glory, and just seems tired. -Beth Guckenberger
And so is Beth:)
click the first sentence in this post to find out more about her book!
I HIGHLY recommend it!
What feeds your view of self ? We can only be defined by the one who designed us.
& even though our tendency is to turn to Black Raspberry Chip…Jesus is the only one who can quench our endless thirst.
TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THE IMAGE ABOVE YOU HAVE TO READ BETH’S BOOK!!! 😬