Good Day! Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by! For a few days, we are in the book of Ecclesiastes. If you’ve just joined me, I am participating in my home Church’s journey to read the Bible in one year using the […]
I want to share the process of speaking truth in love in a personal way with you today.
This is something I talk about often, especially with women in my close circles. As a wife and mother, I have learned this lesson MANY times over the years. The receiver will have closed ears if they hear even the hint of anything other than LOVE. (Anger, frustration, condemnation, etc.) Motivation to speak “truth” often comes from these places of frustration, anger, etc. and changing this natural human response could only happen once I acknowledged my own need for correction, and…that without the power of the Holy Spirit, I would not be able to deliver truth IN LOVE. (The message would always be slighlty tainted by “my flesh.”)
Correction is important to our growth, but until it is motivated by love and tempered with that love the recipient will not “hear” a “hard” truth. NONE of us like to hear or “see” our own faults and stumblings.
“And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, or lose heart when He rebukes you. For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” -Hebrews 12:5,6
In order to speak truth and have it be heard, we must first develop trust within the relationship. It is only through time that we can develop a “track record” of loving responses that will enable the other person to see our true motivation is a matter of the heart.
I love the example Jason Weimer from CRU shares about this topic
What Makes Talking With You Taste Good?
Consider salt. Yes, salt.
In the ancient world salt did more than just make French fries tasty. Before refrigeration, salt preserved meat to keep it from spoiling. These dual purposes – flavoring and preserving – offer context to verses like Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Asking questions, listening, and seeking to understand is a great start to this. We can also encourage people with Scripture blended with snapshots of how we experience it personally.
We can give people a taste of Jesus.
My wife experienced this firsthand recently. We had just bought four chickens and put a coop in the back corner of our property. Our neighbor’s dog became obsessed with them, feverishly sniffing along the fence and refusing to do his other backyard business.
A few days later my neighbor saw my wife in our yard, stormed over, and confronted her.
“I’m not okay with the chickens,” he said.
My wife was taken aback, but she took a breath and whispered a prayer before responding.
“Can you tell me what’s bothering you?” she said. “Maybe we can work something out that would be good for both of us.”
His demeanor immediately changed, as he was expecting defensiveness. It was like my wife had disarmed a bomb, and through peaceful conversation they were able to agree to a solution.
This salt-seasoned interaction with my wife warmed him and our relationship has grown ever since.
So, back to the my personal story:)
Yesterday, I created a post and Doodle 101 regarding Wisdom. Below is the original image I created.
Later that day, a sweet online friend and Sister in Christ sent me a message that was salty, BUT tasted good:) In her message, she tempered truth with such love. She began by encouraging & supporting me, and in a gentle way, asked me about the modesty of the image of “wisdom” above.
She said…”Somehow wisdom with a hint of immodesty don’t seem to go together.”
In all honesty, I hadn’t given it a thought! Often, when I create a drawing tutorial, I consider what will be the most simple and direct way to the end goal. When I drew lady wisdom above, I wanted to draw a simple top, using minimal lines. I also wanted to convey a hint of grace and a posture of “knowing.” I instinctively drew what I would call a “ballet scoop neck” without even thinking about her slightly bare shoulders.
I have to agree with my friend, any form of immodesty and wisdom do not go together! Thank you Sister, for taking the time to not only encourage me, but to also speak truth in a loving way!
I especially liked something else she said that further “tempered” this truth she delivered…
“I totally mean it with gentleness and love, one sister speaking with her sister to maybe help her to see something that she may have missed. Kind of like I would say to a friend that may have some broccoli stuck in her teeth. :)”
What a beautiful example of speaking truth in love.
Here is my new drawing for Wisdom:)
AS ALWAYS, CLICK ON THE IMAGE ABOVE FOR THE PDF
IT’S ALL ABOUT LOVE,
Hello out there! Thank you for taking the time to “stop by!” For those of you following along with me on this journey to read the Bible in a year… I have not been so diligent in creating visuals for awhile! It is “quite the […]
I’m writing from my bed today…after caring for several sickies, I have now fallen to the same end, & on my lap sits my iPad Pro. How amazing it is to be afforded the luxury of laying here with this miraculous piece of technology underneath my fingertips. I am constantly in awe and wonder over it’s capabilities!
Below you will find my latest doodle 101 of a few cute woodland animals. Their evolution began yesterday, when I started working on a simple little sketch from a live “model” on my back patio…a mama dove on her nest with 2 babies.
2 years ago today, my Mom left this world to be with Jesus. When I returned home from the hospital, I found a dove nesting on my back porch for the first time.
2 years ago, I experienced God’s presence with me, as I watched this dove make her home in my backyard.
A symbol of hope…a promise of new life…& eternal life.
She has come back this year, caring for her babies, as the circle of life continues. She reminds me that the Lord is faithful and good. She reminds me that He cares for us in such personal ways…often mysterious, often misunderstood. I am again reminded that this earth is not my home, but while I am here, God He has called me to follow His lead…
“Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?” -Matthew 6:26
…to love without measure…to care for those I sometimes feel are unlovable… to serve the lost, the widow, the orphans, the poor…the sparrows.
And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’
I hope to get back to my sketch book soon, to finish journaling about the Dove’s return.
Until then, happy doodling!
Hello! I have been listening to Dr. Tony Evans latest podcast series entitled “Watch Your Mouth” If you’ve never heard Tony Evans preach, you’re in for a treat. I have mentioned him here before…he happens to be Priscilla Shirer’s Daddy:) The apple doesn’t fall far […]
“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life.” (2 Peter 1:3) BUT, do we seek to fill our needs with the Lord’s provision or with the “world’s.”
It is hard to admit our deep tendency to seek our worth in the opinions of others rather than our Creator God. It is a practice repeated over and over throughout history. Isn’t this at the root of the “selfie stick?
Before the selfie stick, there were golden statues:)
There are so many daily habits rooted in self focus…many start out innocently enough, but become the things that rule our mind and our hearts. Inviting the Holy Spirit to guide us in “self examination will help keep us from being ineffective and unproductive.” -Oswald Chambers
2 Peter sheds light on this process:
2 Peter 1:3-21
His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. 4 Through these He has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.
5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.
10 Therefore, my brothers and sisters,make every effort to confirm your calling and election. For if you do these things, you will never stumble, 11 and you will receive a rich welcome into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
“Making every effort to add faith, goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, & love, does not come naturally within our human nature. WE MUST PRACTICE setting our selfie stick down (surrendering our will to the Lord’s) and then invite the Holy Spirit to renew our minds and change our hearts. It is a moment by moment surrender.
If it helps, keep a log of your practice. If we are more aware of our actions, we can be more intentional in our surrender which will increase our faith as we experience God’s provision in our life! It will become habit forming❤
We will see fruit. We will attain the very things we crave and can never gain with a selfie stick.
Click on the image below for a journal page to “track” your habits:)
Print off the above chart and use it to track and increase your daily (godly) habits. The numbers represent each day of the month. Check the boxes you have accomplished. When we have a little accountability, even with ourselves, it helps us maintain our focus:)
Click on the image below for a pdf of the doodle 101.
This post comes from a night well spent with High School students & a loving Spirit filled Youth Pastor! The current sermon series for our High School group (Tribes) is entitled…”THIS (Jesus) CHANGES EVERYTHING” Last night, the subject was sin. Not something most people, […]